‘Self Respect’ is and should be the most important thing in one’s life, for it does not let you do something wrong. What could be the possible reason that one is ready to lose something that helps to maintain one’s virtue? Is it the attachment towards someone or something else?
Leaving things behind is not easy. Often, we find our past more alluring than our future. We have so many memories that, we love to remain in the past while struggling to live in the present. We just find ourselves helpless of not getting out those memories because we are so attached to those memories. Then, there comes a turning point in the life where we feel that we are not in a condition to have any more attachments, and knowingly or unknowingly we start building a wall around us making it nearly impossible to penetrate it. That constant battle between our heart and mind don’t let us sleep, eat or do anything. The oscillation between what is right or wrong never stops.
I am still in a constant search for an answer. Is the attachment so strong that despite getting abused/rejected we are drawn towards it? I just know one thing that if we can’t stand for ourselves, then we can’t stand for anyone else. People who are meant to stay in our lives will stay, with their consent and not because we begged and pleaded them to stay. Why is this simple statement a conundrum for most of us?
I understand the pain and the flood of thoughts one have while detaching himself. If you can’t help yourself or you think you are stuck in middle of nowhere, then let someone else help you. But, don’t sit back and leave everything to destiny or that everything will eventually be fine.